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For some reason it really gets me when people are skittish. Today I was leaving the bathroom at work, & just as I was opening the door to come out, another girl was on her way in. I think she already had her hand on the knob. Anyway she must have jumped a mile. She blustered there for a moment: "Oh! You SCARED me!"
I feel like if you are about to enter a room, especially a high-traffic area like a public restroom, you should try to prepare yourself for whatever might be on the other side of the door. It seems to me that the very LEAST of possible surprises awaiting you would be someone exiting at the moment of your entrance. I'd prefer that to a horrible stench, or ... you know, other surprises ...
I suppose it could have been worse. What if the TWO of us were both skittish idiots? We would have just stood there panicked & flapping about for ages. At least when one person is surly & jaded like I am, there's someone to downplay the whole thing & keep everybody calm. I know this is a silly thing to complain about, but it seems like it happens to me about once a week.
Other things that piss me off:
* when nothing's wrong & someone says: "What's wrong?"
* when something's wrong & someone you don't know very well says: "What's wrong?"
* when you're perfectly calm & someone says: "Calm down!"
* when you're walking down the street feeling sort of sad & someone you don't know at all says: "Smile!"
* when men leer/hiss/whistle/holla at you on the street. This MUST be stopped.

On an unrelated note, I liked this story. It combines my love of Indian men with my fondness for moustaches.